I may hold the record as the world’s shortest hobbyist. I get interested in something for maybe 5 minutes (long enough to create this blog, I suppose…) and then I’m over it. But in some ways, I’ve never been that interested in my own wedding. Other people’s weddings? Sure, those are interesting, but I didn’t have to plan those.
I started this blog because I felt like I needed to be excited about my own wedding. But over the short course of this blog, I’ve come to believe it’s ok to not be excited about your wedding. Crazy, huh?
Sure, I’m excited about making George my husband. I love him to pieces. He is my rock, my partner in crime, my soul mate, but I don’t really care that much about a wedding. Sure, I want a nice dress and some (gluten-free) cake, but I don’t want 5 bridesmaids, 100 guests or a boat load of debt.
So, where is this all going? In short, I probably won’t be blogging my wedding much anymore. I just don’t like it very much. Plain and simple. After all, I believe in the sunk-cost fallacy. But I do enjoy this blogging hobby. In the future you can look out for book reviews, style posts, recipes, and whatever the hell else I want to write because… wait for it… THIS IS MY BLOG!
So how did I become so liberated? I read, I researched, I did what good librarians do. Here are some links that have helped me:
- A Practical Wedding : This blog has helped me to feel less alone in my wedding unexcitement. The tagline is weddings. minus the insanity, plus the marriage.
- Tick Tock Vintage : This girl is cute, cute, cute, a full-time teacher and a blogger– for fun. Her insights about why blogging is not your life are really inspiring.
- Freaknomics : The Upside of Quitting.
- NY Times : Eloping Does Not Mean What It Once Did
love,
melanie
Do you actually know these two getting married… they both look as nervous as hell !! ha ha.. keep blogging – no matter what takes your fancy
It’s important to have fun at & with your wedding, and that usually doesn’t involve numerous bridesmaids or debt. The wedding is to the marriage as a pebble is to the universe — pretty small, and not the most important thing. I hope you have a fun, memorable wedding and an freakishly wonderful married life thereafter.
Left my other comment too soon…I see you’ve found A Practical Wedding
Can’t tell you how much I can relate to what you’re going through…so while it sounds so cliche I just encourage you to have exactly the wedding that’s right for your and your fiance, and tune everything else out.
I am a fellow “sunk-cost fallacy” believer, and it was brilliant to read someone else who knows what it is! Little gems like that make my day. Having had the typical “big splash” wedding the first time around, I have far more fond memories of my second bare-bones-budget wedding. Neither marriage survived despite, which might be part of why my current fiance` and I plan to simply elope to Vegas! Heh! ;D
I totally agree. The pressure of ‘The best day of your life’ totally got to me. If you expect it to be amazing, you can only be disappointed. Luckily I only had 3 months to plan (for 3 events in 2 different countries), which forced me to cut down on a lot of ‘musts’. I never understood the point of bridesmaids or matching clothes, so we just invited good friends and family – who all doubled as photographers
Although weddings are sometimes for the sake of family and others, the main point is to have fun and make sure that everyone will enjoy the day. Our friends keep asking us to have anniversary parties every year because they had so much fun! Happy planning and Best Wishes from Singapore.
I love that you wrote this. I’m getting married next year – 15 months from now and on a weekly basis I get questions about how things are going, what have I done. My answer is always the same – nothing. We’ve picked a venue, set a date, done an initial crack at the guest and now nothing. I refuse to get consumed by an event that lasts one day.