This weekend George and I will be heading to the mountains to plan our wedding party. We’re not calling it a reception because it just sound stuffy and fun-sucking. The current plan is to have our ceremony at the courthouse with just our immediate family followed by a classy lunch. Then, the next day, we have a balls-to-the wall celebration with our close friends.
This is what we want. It feels easy, relaxed, and comfortable. And I don’t have to sell any organs to get it. But lately others around me have tried to make me feel guilty about our plans– mostly because we are only inviting immediate family – Moms, Dads, Brother, Sister, Sister-in-law, Baby Niece. That’s it.
Most of my family lives states away and the people I really care about in my extended family are too ill to travel. To be honest, we’re not that close to the majority of our extended families either. I love them, but a big wedding just doesn’t feel right. (We counted. If we invited all of our extended families it would be over 200 people. That’s insane.)
So why are people I love trying to make me feel guilty about my decisions? Honestly, I wanted to elope, so you’re getting more of me than I initially even wanted! I’m actually quite a private person, though you probably couldn’t tell from this blog.
Is it southern guilt? Do they honestly feel I am making a mistake? I should not be spending time and energy on guilt that I’m supposed to feel for something I don’t want!
Did you experience any guilt or guilt-givers during your wedding planning? How did you deal?